How can one know oneself? By learning to act not as one should, but as one does.

There is no intention to correct you. Your trouble and mine is that we are trying to behave correctly, as one should, at the cost of quenching, with our own consent, our individuality.

An obvious solution is to preoccupy ourselves not with what we do but how we do it. The “how” is the hallmark of our individuality; it is an inquiry into the process of acting. If we look at how we do things, we might find an alternative way of doing them, i.e. have some free choice. For, if we have no alternative, we have no choice at all.
—Moshe Feldenkrais “The Elusive Obvious” Indroduction